“Many married people, particularly husbands, need to learn that communication is not just being able to talk, but being able to listen as well” (That’s Life, db, p. 77).
Marriage is the oldest institution of God. It is the fabric for society and is among the choicest of all of God’s blessings to man. And yet, its joys and blessings have been eroded by the lack of concern for its sanctity and purity. Divorce runs rampant in this age. Extra-marital sex is now considered normal conduct in some (far too many!) circles. Loyalty and dedication are almost diminished today. Real love seems to have taken a holiday and disappeared.
The home has suffered irreparable damage as a result of the desecration of marriage in our culture. The role of the husband is, at best, nebulous and ill-defined. Wives have left the home in droves and are more interested, in many instances, with their careers than being a “keeper at home.” Children have become home-rulers, determining how and when time is used, how schedules are concocted, even, in many cases, how parents dress. They are the product of the ill-defined roles of both the husband and the wife.
Youth is the object of today’s society. Everything is done, everything is bought, every thing is planned in order that you “might look younger longer.” As a result of such thinking, the wisdom of age is disregarded, demeaned, degraded—even scoffed at. One of the cardinal sins of our society is getting old. Resultantly, the wisdom and experience of older people is not being used. Actually, the philosophy of today’s populace is that if it’s young its good and if it’s old it’s not.
I was just thinking recently about some of the things that have caused marriages to become unraveled and eventually be destroyed. I admit to being one of the world’s poorest marriage counselors. I mostly just listen and read scriptures. If husbands and wives won’t listen to that, I can’t do much for them. Actually, by the time most couples come to me for help, they have so complicated their relationship that only the Lord could work it out; and they aren’t inclined to listen to Him.
I want to cite: Five Ways To Ruin A Marriage
So now you know. Just follow these simple rules and in just a few
weeks you will have created an atmosphere that is charged and
virulent. And then in a month or so, you’ll begin to feel put upon.
Then you’ll start to feel sorry for yourself. And in just about a
year, you may begin to look around some. And then…and then…
It’s just the Devil at work. It’s just his plan in action. Don’t fall into that trap. It’s a trap. Rather than subscribe to the above plan, why not,
Well, there—I’ve said it. I hope it will help some. It helped me to just say it. I don’t know about you, but I’m going to try and do better, OK, Shug?